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VAL- IN- TIME

I started off last week with a quote on love…at the time I did not avert my mind to the fact that we will all soon be talking about Valentine’s Day. It sure did come just in time right?

For all my followers (I like the sound of that even though in fact I have only one partial follower.  I am ambitious don’t fault me) “we” already know that the point of this page is simply to look at the truth about things. At a later date we will look at what that means exactly. Sadly it is now necessary that we do so in these times when truth is going relative and the opinions of people have been exalted unduly. But the question of “what is truth” will be handled later on, for today we are simply looking at Valentine’s Day.

It is my vow never to judge by any means anything, but if we can look critically from the lens of truth then I promise to leave the judging to you. We are free beings after all aren’t we?

Ok…I am usually guilty of diverting from the core message so forgive me in advance if I do it…again.

Oook… so Valentine is just in time isn’t it? I am guessing the ladies are all feeling that way…VAL-IN-TIME! To the ladies its probably a day to look forward to, it’s a day they anticipate and they cannot wait for. On the other hand the dudes feels Val’s couldn’t have come at a worse time, they are often ill prepared for Val’s day,  most of my dudes complain of being broke by the time that Val’s day comes and so many pick a quarrel before that day to avoid its demand. God help you! Because after you reconcile you will probably have to organize a make-up valentine and it just might be worse off for you. Even if Valentine’s Day is shifted to November many dudes never seem prepared. Is it a money problem or a heart problem?

Hmmm… let us look at these two basic things that I believe will help us understand better. “Why do Women all want Valentine’s Day to be observed and made special?” and why e be say the dudes no dey remember  am and Can’t understand why its so important?

STRIKE!!  

The BOYFRIENDS/ FIANCEES AND HUSBANDS UNION (BOFHU) are all announcing a 3day warning strike to reduce the unbearable demands on them. It starts from Feb 13 till feb 16…blab bla bla…

I guess all of us have heard that funny joke and inasmuch as it is hilarious it is also absolutely ridiculous because it conditions the men to believe that when the ladies expect to be spoilt on this special day that they are making demands… first of all no virtuous woman will demand per se, but they will expect and if they do so have they done anything new than they have been doing before then? Expecting love?

Bad news guys… it will never stop! Val’s day, their birthdays, anniversaries; Women will expect something special. To the virtuous women, it is never about the amount of money spent on her, but the attention paid to her, the attention the detail and the love she feels on that day. Why do I say that it will never stop? Because that is their make-up, naturally! Unless she turns into a man somewhere in the course of your relationship. A woman may get so used to being neglected that she stops expecting and just becomes stoic and dutiful and the guys feel they are too busy and later start wondering why they do not feel  as good as they used to in the relationship  at the beginning. Slowly…the love fails and the relationship or marriage breaks.  Women respond to love and they are wired to receive love, in fact, if they are a car that is the way to get them on.

My men, bone oh, the thing bin don tire me before, I usually was never interested in Valentine’s Day and I really do not look forward to it, but when you have a virtuous woman somewhere, you cannot but give her special attention on that day. If you do not have a virtuous woman and your woman is actually just demanding what you cannot give, then accept my apologies, you’re not as blessed as I am.

When you saw that woman, you felt something that made you woo her and go after her isn’t that right? Well, you were never supposed to stop wooing and going after her if you want to keep her. Do not even wait for Valentine’s Day…spoil her at every opportunity. It’s not about the money!!! Its about the love.

An average woman needs to build her self esteem; the way she is seen, perceived and evaluated. This is why most women product are usually concerned with making them look better even look fake sometimes. The average woman is not satisfied with who she is. They want shoes to make them look taller, creams and different types of powders to change and smoothen their complexion and skin color, fake nails, eye lashes, eye shadow, attachments to give their hair sheen…what are they looking for unconsciously? Affirmation! They want to be appreciated they want to be loved and the best thing that you can do to her is to affirm her and to love her the way she is. She will feel more comfortable around you without feeling the need to overdo her impressions. A woman’s beauty can increase just by you boosting her self esteem by affirming her, just by saying the magic words- “I love you” and showing it.

Here is the secret… Eph 5:22/25… “Wives submit to your husbands as to the lord… Husbands love your wives just as Christ loved the church” this does not start in marriage, it starts before it. In fact a lot of things that happen in marriage should start before it… (except sex or undue physical intimacy of course) it is a rehearsal for what should happen. Here is the secret- a Man’s basic need is respect and a Woman’s basic need is love… listen, this does not in any way mean that the woman does not need respect and the Man does not need love. Actually this is how it works… “Women feel respected when they are loved and men feel loved when they are respected”. So , Men… if you want to feel loved and respected, show love. Women, if you want to feel respected and loved show respect.

If you are reading this and you are in a pointless relationship. By this I mean that you have a woman in your life whom you are not sure you want to marry, or perhaps you have never considered the possibility or aren’t just interested in the prospect. My advice? Let her go… you lack the capacity to love her. This is because Vision makes you love better and properly. When you know that she is the one you will spend your life with, then you will hold her up like a trophy. When it’s a pointless relationship, you are either drawn by lust and not love or you can easily fall prey to pre marital sexual relations. When there is no vision the people perish.

As we celebrate Val’s day Men and women alike please know this- “Sex does not show love” or else prostitutes are the most loved. Prostitutes rather feel used. Women, Sex does not show him that you love him, it tells him that you are dependent on him and will not let him go…it opens you up to be disrespected and maligned. This is why sex should be reserved only in marriage, by then the Man has shown you that He is going nowhere, give him your last package then…the best gift… your body. Hopefully unopened and He will adore you for the rest of his life.

It Is val’s day…Guys do something special. It is usually about the way that you do it, not the thing that you do. If you know her well, you should know what she needs, be observant to her and meet those needs on this special day if you can. Surprise her! Buy her a phone if she needs one. It doesn’t matter if it is brand new, fairly used or unfairly used. Make her feel like a queen and if she smiles today- you will feel like a king yourself. Please… make sure you talk with her today, that’s one vital way of showing love. Do not just talk to her, but listen… you may hear some things that will excite you… who talk say Guys no dey like sweet talk?

Before I let you go many people have asked- should Christians celebrate Valentine’s day? They trace the history of it and say a lot of pagan things about it. Well, I will ask this instead… “Should Christians celebrate Love?” … I couldn’t care less what day it is…we should celebrate love everyday anyway and not just for that significant other. Let Val’s day be felt by all that you love as much as you can.

So my men them…Val-in-time?  Sure… never could come at a better time. If na 500 bucks spend am!

 

 

                                                     

VAL- IN- TIME

I started off last week with a quote on love…at the time I did not avert my mind to the fact that we will all soon be talking about Valentine’s Day. It sure did come just in time right?

For all my followers (I like the sound of that even though in fact I have only one partial follower.  I am ambitious don’t fault me) “we” already know that the point of this page is simply to look at the truth about things. At a later date we will look at what that means exactly. Sadly it is now necessary that we do so in these times when truth is going relative and the opinions of people have been exalted unduly. But the question of “what is truth” will be handled later on, for today we are simply looking at Valentine’s Day.

It is my vow never to judge by any means anything, but if we can look critically from the lens of truth then I promise to leave the judging to you. We are free beings after all aren’t we?

Ok…I am usually guilty of diverting from the core message so forgive me in advance if I do it…again.

Oook… so Valentine is just in time isn’t it? I am guessing the ladies are all feeling that way…VAL-IN-TIME! To the ladies its probably a day to look forward to, it’s a day they anticipate and they cannot wait for. On the other hand the dudes feels Val’s couldn’t have come at a worse time, they are often ill prepared for Val’s day,  most of my dudes complain of being broke by the time that Val’s day comes and so many pick a quarrel before that day to avoid its demand. God help you! Because after you reconcile you will probably have to organize a make-up valentine and it just might be worse off for you. Even if Valentine’s Day is shifted to November many dudes never seem prepared. Is it a money problem or a heart problem?

Hmmm… let us look at these two basic things that I believe will help us understand better. “Why do Women all want Valentine’s Day to be observed and made special?” and why e be say the dudes no dey remember  am and Can’t understand why its so important?

STRIKE!!  

The BOYFRIENDS/ FIANCEES AND HUSBANDS UNION (BOFHU) are all announcing a 3day warning strike to reduce the unbearable demands on them. It starts from Feb 13 till Feb 16…blab bla bla…

I guess all of us have heard that funny joke and inasmuch as it is hilarious it is also absolutely ridiculous because it conditions the men to believe that when the ladies expect to be spoilt on this special day that they are making demands… first of all no virtuous woman will demand per se, but they will expect and if they do so have they done anything new than they have been doing before then? Expecting love?

Bad news guys… it will never stop! Val’s day, their birthdays, anniversaries; Women will expect something special. To the virtuous women, it is never about the amount of money spent on her, but the attention paid to her, the attention the detail and the love she feels on that day. Why do I say that it will never stop? Because that is their make-up, naturally! Unless she turns into a man somewhere in the course of your relationship. A woman may get so used to being neglected that she stops expecting and just becomes stoic and dutiful and the guys feel they are too busy and later start wondering why they do not feel  as good as they used to in the relationship  at the beginning. Slowly…the love fails and the relationship or marriage breaks.  Women respond to love and they are wired to receive love, in fact, if they are a car that is the way to get them on.

My men, bone oh, the thing bin don tire me before, I usually was never interested in Valentine’s Day and I really do not look forward to it, but when you have a virtuous woman somewhere, you cannot but give her special attention on that day. If you do not have a virtuous woman and your woman is actually just demanding what you cannot give, then accept my apologies, you’re not as blessed as I am.

When you saw that woman, you felt something that made you woo her and go after her isn’t that right? Well, you were never supposed to stop wooing and going after her if you want to keep her. Do not even wait for Valentine’s Day…spoil her at every opportunity. It’s not about the money!!! Its about the love.

An average woman needs to build her self esteem; the way she is seen, perceived and evaluated. This is why most women product are usually concerned with making them look better even look fake sometimes. The average woman is not satisfied with who she is. They want shoes to make them look taller, creams and different types of powders to change and smoothen their complexion and skin color, fake nails, eye lashes, eye shadow, attachments to give their hair sheen…what are they looking for unconsciously? Affirmation! They want to be appreciated they want to be loved and the best thing that you can do to her is to affirm her and to love her the way she is. She will feel more comfortable around you without feeling the need to overdo her impressions. A woman’s beauty can increase just by you boosting her self esteem by affirming her, just by saying the magic words- “I love you” and showing it.

Here is the secret… Eph 5:22/25… “Wives submit to your husbands as to the lord… Husbands love your wives just as Christ loved the church” this does not start in marriage, it starts before it. In fact a lot of things that happen in marriage should start before it… (except sex or undue physical intimacy of course) it is a rehearsal for what should happen. Here is the secret- a Man’s basic need is respect and a Woman’s basic need is love… listen, this does not in any way mean that the woman does not need respect and the Man does not need love. Actually this is how it works… “Women feel respected when they are loved and men feel loved when they are respected”. So , Men… if you want to feel loved and respected, show love. Women, if you want to feel respected and loved show respect.

If you are reading this and you are in a pointless relationship. By this I mean that you have a woman in your life whom you are not sure you want to marry, or perhaps you have never considered the possibility or aren’t just interested in the prospect. My advice? Let her go… you lack the capacity to love her. This is because Vision makes you love better and properly. When you know that she is the one you will spend your life with, then you will hold her up like a trophy. When it’s a pointless relationship, you are either drawn by lust and not love or you can easily fall prey to pre marital sexual relations. When there is no vision the people perish.

As we celebrate Val’s day Men and women alike please know this- “Sex does not show love” or else prostitutes are the most loved. Prostitutes rather feel used. Women, Sex does not show him that you love him, it tells him that you are dependent on him and will not let him go…it opens you up to be disrespected and maligned. This is why sex should be reserved only in marriage, by then the Man has shown you that He is going nowhere, give him your last package then…the best gift… your body. Hopefully unopened and He will adore you for the rest of his life.

It Is val’s day…Guys do something special. It is usually about the way that you do it, not the thing that you do. If you know her well, you should know what she needs, be observant to her and meet those needs on this special day if you can. Surprise her! Buy her a phone if she needs one. It doesn’t matter if it is brand new, fairly used or unfairly used. Make her feel like a queen and if she smiles today- you will feel like a king yourself. Please… make sure you talk with her today, that’s one vital way of showing love. Do not just talk to her, but listen… you may hear some things that will excite you… who talk say Guys no dey like sweet talk?

Before I let you go many people have asked- should Christians celebrate Valentine’s day? They trace the history of it and say a lot of pagan things about it. Well, I will ask this instead… “Should Christians celebrate Love?” … I couldn’t care less what day it is…we should celebrate love everyday anyway and not just for that significant other. Let Val’s day be felt by all that you love as much as you can.

So my men them…Val-in-time?  Sure… never could come at a better time. If na 500 bucks spend am!

 

 

                                                                                                                ………………VACSAMMZ…………………

                                                                                                        (Na start  I dey start, It gets better in time)

 

                                                           ………………VACSAMMZ…………………

                                                                                                        (Na start  I dey start, It gets better in time)

 

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